Simple Secrets: Paying on it vs. Paying it OFF

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Ok folks. In my last post we went over the basics of the 7 Baby Steps that have helped us pay off over $53,000 in debt in the last 20 months. But today, I'm going to let you in on a little secret: There should actually be 8 baby steps!

Step Zero: Stop using currently established and available forms of credit, and also stop accepting NEW forms of credit.

This step contains the key to your Total Money Makeover, and it's such a radical shift from 'the norm' that it causes many to fail even before they start. Some folks just cant get their head around living off of CASH.

When you really get the point of this program, you will soon realize that you really don't need credit at all. Not for credit reports, or FICO scores, or for your cash back rewards. You don't need it.

Minor tangent: Speaking of cash back rewards... how much CASH are you really getting BACK when the creditor is charging you interest for the use of your credit line? Think about it!

Now, in my last post I promised to tell you why we REALLY chose to stick with this system, and here is the reason: Because at first we felt like we were doing something WRONG. And when I say 'wrong' I mean we felt like we were being disloyal to the credit industry in some way. It's hard to articulate, but Visa and MasterCard have become so prevalent in our society and in our spending habits, that it felt truly odd to simply make the decision not to use our charge cards! How sick is that?

The entire credit system is propped upon the fact that they NEED you to NEED them. They constantly send the message that if you aren't using credit in some way, you simply will not be able to 'compete' with or keep up with the average consumer. It's a very Pied Piper mentality!

Once we realized why it felt so wrong, it lit a fire in us! And it opened our eyes to the many tactics and tricks that are pressed upon the average consumer.

THIS IS A WAR PEOPLE! And if you haven't noticed, take a look at what this nation has been through in the last 16 months as proof. The housing market collapse, the banking and financial institution implosions, the economy woes, the employment issues. They are all mutations of one virus: CREDIT...

Credit tells you it's ok to spend more than you actually possess. Credit tells you it's ok to borrow against your future, to acquire something today. Credit can erode your character and your sense of delayed gratification, and it can also ease you into a place of irresponsibility and 'living for the moment' emotional purchasing.

Because of this, you are required to make a change in your approach toward money. This is where the title of my post comes in. People who are comfortable with debt, have no problem "paying on" something far longer then they ever intended to, because they get lulled to sleep by the convenience factor of a payment plan.

Meanwhile, those who have had enough of this game of debt become addicted to "paying off" things as quickly as possible so that they can free up their income and truly live a life that's not dictated by a three digit score, and the limits on their cards.

Thanks for tuning in, I hope you're enjoying this expose' series.

Next up: "The $1,000 Scramble"

You are worthy of the journey!

@W







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These "Baby Steps" AIN'T for Babies!

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In the last 2 posts I've kind of gone thru a sort of 'reset'. Maybe it's a second wind of sorts? I dont know. But I've felt the need to simplify the emotions and actions WE (my wife and I) faced when we first started out so that YOU can duplicate them as much as possible.

In the first post of this mini-series, I laid out exactly what we're doing and how it has helped us pay off $49,000 in debt in only 19 months! In the second post I continued to zoom in on the mindset and underlying philosophy of "Living Like No One Else".

Luckily we never felt overwhelmed with the process, and I think that is in part due to what I intend to share with you in this post. In his book The Total Money Makeover, Dave Ramsey calls them the Baby Steps. They are meant to be simple bullet points on your journey to debt freedom.

But please dont sleep! Just because these steps are simple, doesnt mean they're for 'simple' people. It takes vision, committment, and perseverance to see these steps through to completion!

I want to take a few moments to list them out below, but I'll delve deeper into each step in future posts.

Step One: Save $1000.00 CASH as quickly as you can to start "Emergency Fund"

Step Two: Pay off ALL debt in order from smallest to largest using "Debt Snowball".

Step Three: Save 3-6 months worth of expenses, to fully fund "Emergency Fund".

Step Four: Invest 15% of income into Roth IRA's and Pre-tax retirement.

Step Five: Begin funding your childrens' College Educations.

Step Six: Pay off your home early

Step Seven: Build Wealth & GIVE! (Mutual Funds, Real Estate, ect.)

Step "Zero": STOP using any forms of credit and accepting new forms of credit.

Pretty simple and straight forward right? Well yes, and no. Yes, because they set a framework for you to follow. No, because if you dont follow the framework that has been set... you'll only be making it harder for yourself. In addition, these steps can't tell you how aggressive to be in your Total Money Makeover. The intensity level must be left up to you.

The downfall to the simplicity of this plan is that so many "SMART" people in this world think they need to re-invent the wheel and make it more sophisticated. But as the saying goes "K-I-S-S" (Keep It Simple Stupid).

As I said before, I'll be breaking each step down and explaining why the order is so important. I'll also be sharing exactly why we REALLY chose to stick with this system. As you become more and more familiar with the steps, you will inevitably feel that something is "wrong" about them. This is natural! At first, I did too, until I realized how CONDITIONED i had become by the FICO scores and the credit card industry! They NEED you to NEED them, and they're NOT going to make it EASY for you to cut them loose!

We'll talk about that further in my next post where I'll address the 'objections' I've heard toward getting out of debt. The reason objections is in quotes is because the people objecting were spitting out all the BS that is fed to them daily by the media and credit card industry.

Next Episode: "Paying On It VS. Paying it Off"

You are worthy of the journey!

@W







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You Want Me To Do WHAT?!?!

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In my last post I left you with this thought:

"Live like no one else, so that one day you can LIVE like no one else."

Please try and get that into your spirit whether you choose to get out of debt with us or not! It's going to apply to whatever obstacle you need to face in order to reach that goal you fantasize about.

In our case though, that statements speaks to our financial situation in a very powerful way. My wife and I were blessed enough to start getting out of debt in 2007 which was way before the economy went south. The reason I call it a blessing is because it would have been 20 times tougher for us to go through some of the things we've faced, if we were just starting at during a time like this. But in no way am I saying it can't be done. I know of many people who started their jouney to debt freedom when things were at their worst, which to me is all the more commendable and impressive.

But let me get back to my point. "Living like no one else" means letting go of all the credit cards, charge cards, department store cards, gas cards, the loans ect. "Living like no one else" means living only off of the money you earn from your salary. And let me tell ya people, it takes serious guts to do this! This might be the equivalent of a life-long meat eater going Vegan "cold turkey" as they say. Or I guess more fittingly "cold to-furkey" lol.

But for me a far better and meaningful example is the commitment, determination and surrender a person undergoes when they give their life to Jesus Christ. This process can be nearly as liberating and transforming for your finances. "Living like no one else" means doing what others are afraid to do because it might cost them something trivial on the front end!

Let me make one thing clear real quick. Just because I'm not spending all of my money on watches and flat-screens NOW, doesnt mean it's ALWAYS going to be this way for me. In fact I have just over a year left to go before I can get back to truly ENJOYING my money again, and yes even BLOWING some money on material things. But that will be just fine because at that point I'll be able to AFFORD IT!! I made a decision to SACRIFICE for just 2-3 years of my life so that I wont have to sacrifice for the REST OF MY LIFE!

Unfortunately, too many people have been sold the idea that they simply cannont exist without credit. It's become unrealistic to many because all of their 'dreams' reside far outside of means!

"C'mon, who really pays CASH for a car nowadays? That's just not realistic! I'll never have a nice ride, if I go that route!"

"Can you even get a house without having a MORTGAGE, is that even possible?"

"And just forget about paying for your children's college education unless you refinance that mortgage! Raising enough cash to pay for it outright?!? Is that even possible?"

"Is that even possible?!" This might be the second most popular question I'm asked when it comes to our debt journey. And at least for us, I'd have to say "Yes, it's very possible."

"Living like no one else" requires a paradigm shift, or rather a change in your thinking. But take heart, you dont have to undergo that shift overnight! This is where the "Baby Steps" come in...

In the next episode: "These "Baby Steps" ain't for BABIES!"

Stay Tuned...

@W







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How To Remain Generous In Your Giving While Getting Out Of Debt

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The title of this post is a little oxymoronic, isn't it? For those of you who are on the debt-dumping warpath, I'm pretty sure you've struggled with how to continue your generous ways while seemingly pinching each and every penny till it screams.

Well, below I've listed a few observations that I've learned from people I consider to be generous givers who also just happen to be turning their finances around at the same time. I've noticed these traits frequently enough, and across a broad enough swath of people that I thought it warranted listing them for all to see. (If you think of any that I missed, please let me hear from you in the comments!)

*Also a quick note of clarification: When I refer to 'generosity' here, I mean separate from Tithes and Offerings given in church. I'm talking about street-level, everyday, practical giving.

1. Generosity is a character trait - Getting out of debt is not.

Being charitable for most people cannot be turned off and on. Either you are a giving person or most likely you just aren't. Now you can become more frugal and still maintain your generosity, but you cannot be stingy and expect to still be considered generous at the same time. Being frugal means that you are simply more considerate of getting the most value out of your money and the resources you acquire with it. Being stingy means you are miserly, or selfish with your money and usually have little regard to the true value your money holds.

2. Generosity often has little to do with just money.

Too many people equate generosity with how much money you donate to charities, and other philanthropic foundations. But I'd venture to say that financial giving is only the tip of the iceberg, not the iceberg itself. You can be generous with your time, energy and talents more easily than you can with your money. You can be generous with your faith or your spiritual gifts. You can volunteer towards causes you have a passion for.

Do me a favor and look closely at the picture at the top of this post. I chose that picture for this post because the donation box didn't say what to donate... so the people who did give something gave freely. To me it serves as a metaphor for the many ways you can show your generosity while staying true to your mission of becoming debt free.

3. Generous people excel at assessing genuine 'needs'.

(Brace yourself this is gonna be my 'soapbox' part of the post lol)

Many people in our society have formed the nasty habit of describing their 'wants' as desperate 'needs'. It's gotten to the point where the line between the two has completely faded in the minds of many people. This blurred line between wants and needs is one of the general contributors to the cycle of debt and overspending we see today.

Because of this, generous people need to be selective in who, what, when, how, and why they give of their resources. Being carelessly generous can sometimes do just as much harm as being selfish or scrooge-ish.

Years ago I was downtown for lunch and came across a homeless man begging for change. Naturally he asked me for some money so that he could get some food. I told him that I didn't have any change but since I was on my way to lunch I would buy him anything he wanted to eat. Amazingly he turned ME down. At first I was offended, but soon realized that he didn't 'need' to eat. In fact I later learned that he didn't need the money at all. Get this - he wasn't even homeless, he was simply too lazy to find an honest, stable job! He spent his days staking out prime pan-handling real estate -- The White House, The Capitol building, Georgetown, and local tourist attractions etc.-- and making about $100/day doing it!

The moral of this story -- all of it true -- is that people don't always need what they say they need. The other moral is that if anything, we NEED to be careful of giving to every seemingly good cause. Again this goes back to being frugal vs. being stingy vs. being an aloof giver.

4. Generous people have a firm grasp on the concept of 'Blessings of Increase'.

This past Sunday, I took my bike out for a ride. I didn't want to carry much in my pockets, so I only took my driver's license and a $20 bill. Somewhere along the way, either coming or going I dropped that $20 bill. (Which was a large chunk of my food money for the next week) Upon realizing that I dropped it, I was initially disappointed -- in part because I was now in line to order some food lol -- but I quickly got over it and hoped that my 'lost' bill would 'find' someone else when they needed it most.

Though I lost $20, so what! It will be replaced in the first hour of my next working day. Instead I realized that I gained a blessing (multiple actually) in the fact that the next person who finds it will be pretty hyped over it. Another blessing for me was that I was ok over losing it. It was another timely reminder of the Financial Peace that I continue to gain as we eliminate our debt. I could've obsessed over what a nice snowflake $20 dollars would've been, yada yada, blah blah. But as I said before, so what! I could've lost my driver's license instead of the $20.... and then I'd really be getting some use out of my bike!

5. After you get out of debt, there's no limit to how generous you can be!

The title of this post is "How To Remain Generous In Your Giving While Getting Out Of Debt". Yes, you already knew this, but i just wanted to point it out again because it's meant to be a transitional concept. You are not always going to be 'getting' out of debt, one day you'll just be 'out'! (Can I get an AMEN?)

Baby Step #7 of Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover is simply this: "Build Wealth & Give!"

Once you're out of debt for good, it's my hope that you will carry on the obligation of helping others to get out as well. It will truly be one of the most generous things you do with your new found financial freedom!

6. Generosity is a core responsibility for the Christian.

A compelling promise is given in the bible to those who chose to be generous in their giving. It is found in Luke 6:38*:

*Taken from the NIV translation:
Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

This is the basic formula for the blessings of increase that I mentioned in point #4. But just like bread cant be made without yeast, this recipe is useless without a loving spirit. There is no such thing as malicious giving. And although there is such a thing as indifferent giving, it's just as pointless as not giving at all.

The recipe given in Luke 6:38 simply cant be followed by just anyone. It's the hallmark of a seasoned chef, one who has come to understand and know the six points laid out here.

So with that I ask you, what's cookin'?

@W

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